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Hi, again!
This month's news story about kids' learning broke my heart. The pandemic has been brutal on school life. So many elementary kids are falling behind.
It can make you furious with your school, your staff. Perhaps you're burning up right now!
Scores of parents have rehearsed tirades with me. "When I get to that room, I'm gonna give it to them ..." Faces red, neck veins bulging, they're ready for that meeting.
Naturally, you can feel angry. This is your child! That's why I talk parents down from the cliff -- so they can gain what they hope to gain.
Here is my time-tested advice for communicating with school staff.
The overheated head can lead the mouth astray.
Your goal is for school staff to grant your request. So approach them as you'd want to be.
Use the calmest voice you can. Find courteous words.
Instead of:
These may seem obvious. But they can help.
Educators get about minus 50% appreciation these days.
Pandemic teaching has drained most staff. The ones at your school are still here. They've decided to stay.
Gratitude is the grease. And I don't mean that manipulatively. Gratitude is a gift -- for the staff, and for yourself.
Dig deep and look for some gratitude. It'll help you find a tranquil tone.
Sure, staff may have disappointed you. But they're the same people you hope will assist your child "with a happy heart."
Years and years ago, a parent used that "happy heart" phrase. I never forgot it.
Even if you're angry, don't be Thor.
This post is inspired by the teacher's point of view.
ChildSightTools® is built on the child's point of view.
Taking both perspectives help kids! Learn about how I help young children & families.
See ya next time!
And remember ... Looking through your child's eyes changes everything.
Cheers!
Dr. Beth
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